Be yourself, be proud of who you are, be confident, and realistic. These are the kind of things which you must have to carry all the time, because once you lose them it will be very hard for you to regain it.
This is the story of Gauri who was the victim of this, how easily she gave the key of her happiness into others hand and lost her values in her own eyes and her journey of regaining it.
After marriage Gauri started living in a metro city with her husband who was working as a Managing director of a big company. Before marriage Gauri was the back-end employee in a small company in her town. She was confident and smart lady and because of these quality Raman (Gauri’s husband) married to her. After marriage her happiness was beyond the clouds. How fast few months flew she didn’t even realized. After sometime she started looking for a Job in her new city but because of her minimal work experience she didn’t get the job to her satisfaction. To make herself comfortable she started learning many other new things and exploring herself. She was quite happy in her own space. But things started getting bad for her once she started listening to others and to their expectations instead of her own.
As time passed her family, friends, people who surrounds her started asking and interrupting in her life by questioning her how can you stay alone and doing nothing, how can you stay jobless, how can you passes your time here, how can you live your life aimlessly, don’t you have value for time and etc. Apart from this they started looking at her with pity eyes thinking she is living her life only to live, which wasn’t exactly true at all on Gauri’s perception but when these comments got frequent she started taking their opinion seriously on her.
She got herself under immense pressure to fulfill their expectations or you can just say to change their opinion. And these thing started over taking her life. Her happiness was all about to show them what they want to see, but once she failed proving her in front of them she lost her confidence & value, she felt like she is worthless, burden and sadly she was almost on verge of going into depression. Slowly you can start seeing this depression in her personality too. To avoid to go into depression she started ignoring people, she started thinking a lot on her weakness.
She never discussed these things with her husband because she didn’t want to show him that she was broke from inside. Things were getting more worse when she reached on the point where she started thinking that definitely Raman must have regretting his decision of marring me, although he never says it but he must be thinking the same. These things have made very deep impact on her life.
But lucky she, Raman finds it on her behavior and understood easily that what bothers her and how to overcome it. Raman’s help took minimum more than a month to explain and teach her that why is it important to close your ears and eyes towards others opinion for yourself. Because they don’t know you, they don’t live your life, they don’t know your situation, and they don’t think before speak so don’t be victim of their judgment, there is no need to live your life on their terms. Never ever give rights to other to snatch your happiness. She finally understood the simple fact that we are living in a society where people talks and you can’t control them, you try hard to keep away from those talks but suddenly or after some time some person or same people will come to you and starts again talking the same stuffs which eventually can takes you in the dark zone again.
Slowly she understood and accepted the reality and circumstance and made a filter for herself that from now I will never overthink on the situations which I can’t control and feel gratitude towards what I have instead what i don’t have. As soon as she started this her mind starts working again in all others aspects as well.
She regained her confidence, her value, her worth and she realized that she did learned many other things also except 9 to 6 job. These learning helps her to know more about her and her capabilities.
Now if people talk again about same things to her so she takes it as their opinion and without any offence she enjoys her reality.
Today she has her own you tube channel with hundred thousands of subscriber. She has never thought in her life that she can do this. This was like a dream and kind of a challenge to her. It was a whole new experience for her. Now she feels gratitude towards her free time, so she can explore her new side.
Her one and only suggestion is that never ever feel ashamed or unworthy about yourself. Don’t be a toy to give reactions on others expectations. Life is short, explore it and live in your terms. Don’t disrespect anybody but always listen to your own self.